SIBLING REACTIONS AND RECOVERY
The sexual assault of one child typically affects the whole family, including siblings. Everything you do to help your children at this time is important. Even your smallest actions can create big opportunities for healing in your children.
Below are some common reactions you can expect from the siblings of a sexually abused child.
- Stress is normal in situations such as this. Teach relaxation techniques, and be sure everyone is eating healthily and being active.
- Siblings may resent the attention the abused child is getting from parents, other caregivers and extended family and friends. You can help to reduce resentment by making sure every child has special time and by including siblings in as many age-appropriate activities as possible.
- Older siblings may feel responsible for their sibling’s abuse and respond by trying to protect that child from all potential risks. Help your children understand that they are not responsible for anyone’s safety. It is your job, as the parent, to protect the children in the family.
Common reactions from siblings:
Resentment of the abused child
Emotional distress
Overprotection
Stigmatization
Blame
An abused child can acquire a stigmatized role among siblings or be blamed for the distress the family is experiencing. Redirect negative sibling reactions to the abuse to the only person responsible for the abuse – the abuser. Remind them that their sibling did not want to be abused and needs to be treated with acceptance in order to find the way back to normal.
Your children may be experiencing changes and challenges at this time. You can try to minimize the amount of change they have to face at one time and constantly reassure them by providing them with unconditional love, understanding and support. You can also download a guide to assist you in having positive discussions with your children.
In Crisis?
FLORIDA : Florida Council Against Sexual Violence
Crisis Hotline : 1.888.956.RAPE (7273)
UNITED STATES : RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network)
Crisis Hotline : 1.800.656.HOPE (4673)
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